I’ve gone through a lot of emotions while coming to grips with what went down in Washington last week, with the Supreme Court confirmation of Brett Kavanaugh. First, I know what it feels like to have something brought up from the past when you were a stupid kid. It happens to me everytime I go on a housing interview when my CORI pops up or when an ex reminds me of what an a-hole I was. That is pretty much where the comparisons to me and Brett Kavanaugh end.
When I’m confronted with my past I don’t lose it or say that I can’t remember or deny that I was a nasty drunk who hurt women. I have female friends that know stuff about my past, mainly because I want them to know upfront that was no angel and many women from my past have forgiven me, though I don’t deserve it. Then again it’s not like I’m ever going to be chosen to be a Supreme Court Justice. Besides, I’m not some rich privileged white kid who went to Yale, who can pretty much abuse women and still get handed the brass ring. You can take it to the bank that had Kavanaugh been a black man not only would he have been rejected, but you would have had some of those good old boys in the Senate wanting to lynch him. Now I know a few of you are going to say wait a minute Clarence Thomas got in the Supreme Court. Yes he did, but Anita Hill was black. The fact is that those good old boys don’t respect women period, and Maine Senator Susan Collins’ cowardly vote reinforced that.
The person that I really have empathy for is Christine Ford. If you thought I was going to let the Senate Dems off the hook, nope. First, there’s Senator Dianne Feinstein, who held onto the letter from Ford and used it as a hail mary towards the end of the hearings — not to mention it was most likely someone from her office who name dropped Ford to the media. And the circus that came afterwards including that sham FBI investigation only served to victimized Ford a second time. Now we have a crazed, drunken, sexual abuser sitting on the bench of the highest court in the land. For the first time in quite a while a women’s right to choose is seriously in danger, not to mention voting and civil rights could be eroded more than it is now.
Can we overcome this? Yes. Vote on November 6 and keep voting. It’s time to get these old white men and women out of office and infuse both houses with young progressives who listen to the people. Raise our voices, demand justice real justice. Instill in our children that behavior like Kavanaugh’s and Thomas’s is not okay.
Men need to step up for women and be real. Those are our moms, sisters, aunts, grandmothers. We as men need to step up for them.